3 Things That Helped Me Accept My Hair

I want to take a minute to talk about how crazy my hair is.  It's got it's own personality.  I mean, it's dry at times, perky and colorful (Been through 3 colors to be more specific) and it's all mine.  Recently, however, I can say it's been through so much damage that our relationship hasn't been the best lately. I've fought with it and tried to make it do tricks it didn't want to do all while I've been begging for it to get longer.

My Rihanna red hair phase right after bleaching my hair.

My Rihanna red hair phase right after bleaching my hair.


I can't remember the last time I had long, full, past-the-middle-of-my-back hair. I said goodbye to that once I got my first perm in high school.  Since going natural, I've been trying to get back to the length I once knew.  I follow blogs like Black Girl Long Hair and Curly Nikki and bought probably my weight in Carol's Daughter's products.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a big health/organic/naturalista nut so the things I mentioned above aren't a problem.  The problem is my obsession and disappointment, when I follow these regimens to the "T" and my hair has yet to grow more than an inch. Meanwhile, I'm busy obsessing over this:

prettyonme hair

And I'm over here like:


But lately I've been thinking. While I do have #lengthgoals, I found myself getting stressed out at the fact that I haven't met them yet. This, is a huge negative. 

So how do I get over this?

1. I'm getting wrapped up in my own DNA.  Not everyone experiences fast hair growth.  It's important to remember that just as hair color can differ, so can the way your hair grows.

2. No focus on how long my hair is but how healthy it is. Health over woes.  I'd love to have long hair, but I need to have healthy hair first.

3. Have fun.  I'm getting so wrapped up in fun and cute styles, I'm finding less time to worry about the length.

So whether I'm doing my haircare right or wrong, I'm trying to remember that everyone is different and has their own hair journey.  Obsessing over someone else's trip while I'm trying to pamper my hair can lead to frustrations.  

To all my long hair, short haired, curly, kinky wavy and long haired girls.  We're shining in our own galaxy in our own way, and ain't nothing wrong with that.

Have a hair care struggle? Tell me about!